Regrets....Those who Know me, Know i am not just a Jay-z "fan" i am a Jay-z ambassador! And on his first album in 1996, Reasonable Doubt, (a timeless KlassiK), he said "the number one rule for your set/in order to survive, you gotta learn to live to live with regrets../Time waits for no man/cant turn back the hands once its too late/you gotta learn to live with 'em..." We live in a world of binary thoughts...left right, up down, yes no, on off. Therefore, its very easy to maKe the wrong decision in some situations, especially dealing with the external stressors that each one of us is subjected to on a daily basis, becKause in reality you Kan't split the forK in the road. I feel that how an individual handles maKing the "wrong" choice Kan really define an individual. That's where regrets come in, now everybody at one point or another has done something that they either wish they had not done or that they had done differently, but its the fixation on that event that separates the people who move forward and the people who move baKKwards, or as i call it "progressors-vs-regressors". Lets start with the progressors, progressors are generally mentally tough individuals, who learn from their mistaKes rather then dwell on them, progressors make lemonade out of their lemons and then plant the seeds to make more lemons. Progressors are Known to make the best of a bad or less then ideal situation. On the other hand, you have regressors...regressors routinely seeK sympathy for their mistaKes, as opposed to taKing responsibility for and owning up to them. Regressor make exKuses for their mistaKes instead of just admitting that they sKrewed up. Regressors make bad situations worse by constantly reliving them and not just letting them go. To the regressors defense, it is hard to let certain things go especially when they affeKt other people, and even more so the people we care about. I have no rule nor remedy to how to stop regressing and become progressive, because I battle with my own regressive tendencies, but what helps me is my Konfidence, not only in myself but in the way i was raised and the people who raised me, i have watched a lot of people close to me deal with so many different things, and i taKe from them the things that they see appliKable. I have only one real regret in my life, and I carry that regret with me everywhere I go as a reminder not to maKe the same mistaKe again.
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Couldn't have said that any better! Your words speak a beautiful truth.
Interestings topic, though I have something to add about progressors. People who would fall under your depiction of progressors would also take responsibility for their actions and realize that there is no progress unless one addresses all "bad decisions" and deals with the consequences that follows. You have to be careful with "progressors", because that moving forward mentality can leave irreparable damage for lack of dealing with a situation and letting it linger for too long. You are right we all have our regrets, its a part of life but there is something that you can do to become progressive. One, forgive yourself for making whatever indiscretion you made. Apologize and/or explain the reasons for the decisions you made if others were hurt by it. Understand the mentality that you had when you were making that decision, that way you will truly learn from it and not make the same regrettable mistake. What I have just described is how one takes ownership for their actions. Excuses are the enemy of progress. Remember that.
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