Regrets....Those who Know me, Know i am not just a Jay-z "fan" i am a Jay-z ambassador! And on his first album in 1996, Reasonable Doubt, (a timeless KlassiK), he said "the number one rule for your set/in order to survive, you gotta learn to live to live with regrets../Time waits for no man/cant turn back the hands once its too late/you gotta learn to live with 'em..." We live in a world of binary thoughts...left right, up down, yes no, on off. Therefore, its very easy to maKe the wrong decision in some situations, especially dealing with the external stressors that each one of us is subjected to on a daily basis, becKause in reality you Kan't split the forK in the road. I feel that how an individual handles maKing the "wrong" choice Kan really define an individual. That's where regrets come in, now everybody at one point or another has done something that they either wish they had not done or that they had done differently, but its the fixation on that event that separates the people who move forward and the people who move baKKwards, or as i call it "progressors-vs-regressors". Lets start with the progressors, progressors are generally mentally tough individuals, who learn from their mistaKes rather then dwell on them, progressors make lemonade out of their lemons and then plant the seeds to make more lemons. Progressors are Known to make the best of a bad or less then ideal situation. On the other hand, you have regressors...regressors routinely seeK sympathy for their mistaKes, as opposed to taKing responsibility for and owning up to them. Regressor make exKuses for their mistaKes instead of just admitting that they sKrewed up. Regressors make bad situations worse by constantly reliving them and not just letting them go. To the regressors defense, it is hard to let certain things go especially when they affeKt other people, and even more so the people we care about. I have no rule nor remedy to how to stop regressing and become progressive, because I battle with my own regressive tendencies, but what helps me is my Konfidence, not only in myself but in the way i was raised and the people who raised me, i have watched a lot of people close to me deal with so many different things, and i taKe from them the things that they see appliKable. I have only one real regret in my life, and I carry that regret with me everywhere I go as a reminder not to maKe the same mistaKe again.
